15 Ways to Ruin Your Child & Your Life
- Don't plan ahead. Don't think early on about arranging a secure home in which to raise a child. Especially, don't pick a husband or wife with character traits that would make him or her a true partner and supporter as you rear your children.
- Leave your infant to be raised by an inadequate or unconnected caretaker for too many hours.
- Keep yourself stressed and busy. Be exhausted when you come home. It's especially effective to feel guilty about being away.
- Give in to your child's whims on everything and demand nothing in return. That will make up for neglect.
- Facilitate your child's ascent into the world of consumerism. Accommodate his endless urges for the latest, coolest, most attractive, most superficial things.
- Let your child think he is the boss of the universe. That way you can avoid frustrating or regulating him.
- Live without thoughts of the larger meaning of your life and your child's life.
- Don't subscribe to a code of ethics or morals that can override your own impulses — and definitely don't expose your child to such a code.
- Be sure your three or four-year-old child sleeps in your bed, suckles, wears disposable underwear, and is pushed around in a stroller while you get your exercise.
- Don't supervise your child's friendships.
- Let your, child enjoy all the TV, videos, and video games he wants.
- Act as though your child is on his own already.
- Don’t take her out for genuine, loving times together with no interruptions. Don't just hang out and have fun — it's also effective for children to have their days scheduled to the minute.
- Don't mess with your child's relationship to sex, drugs, tobacco, and alcohol.
- Never give your child chores or expect her to be a partner in running the house.
— From Shaw's book, The Epidemic